Wednesday, October 09, 2013
If you have not seen it, stop reading and go read it. I mean it. It is incredible.
I never feel adequate in my job as a mom. It is my favorite thing in the world, and the part of my life that I feel has purpose and meaning for me as a woman. It is what I longed to be when many young ladies around me wanted to be something else when they grew up. When I married, I wanted to be a wife and a mom.
This is not something that is lauded in our world. It is not something that is valued by enough people. The very role of mother in our world - in the 21st century - is horribly misrepresented and undervalued. Mothers that stay home and raise their children are viewed with contempt by a lot of people. This is wrong.
From the post:
These women are doing something beautiful and complicated and challenging and terrifying and painful and joyous and essential. Whatever they are doing, they ARE doing something, and our civilization DEPENDS on them doing it well. Who else can say such a thing? What other job carries with it such consequences?
It’s true — being a mom isn’t a “job.” A job is something you do for part of the day and then stop doing. You get a paycheck. You have unions and benefits and break rooms. I’ve had many jobs; it’s nothing spectacular or mystical. I don’t quite understand why we’ve elevated “the workforce” to this hallowed status. Where do we get our idea of it? The Communist Manifesto? Having a job is necessary for some — it is for me — but it isn’t liberating or empowering. Whatever your job is — you are expendable. You are a number. You are a calculation. You are a servant. You can be replaced, and you will be replaced eventually. Am I being harsh? No, I’m being someone who has a job. I’m being real.
If your mother quit her role as mother, entire lives would be turned upside down; society would suffer greatly. The ripples of that tragedy would be felt for generations. If she quit her job as a computer analyst, she’d be replaced in four days and nobody would care. Same goes for you and me. We have freedom and power in the home, not the office.
To my mother-friends out there reading this, you are important. What you are doing is shaping the future. If you often feel like a failure, believe me, I understand. I do too. I know that I am not all the things he mentions in his post--boy howdy do I know it. I do know though, that the children God gave me are the most important job He has ever entrusted to me. I am also very grateful He gave me a wonderful husband and that we are doing this crazy thing called parenting together.
However, let me be clear: *I* don't want to be lauded. I know my own failures and my own struggles. I know that I am never going to be enough for my kids. I know that only the Savior of the world is truly enough. He works in the lives of our children and I am so terribly grateful He does because I will never be enough for my kids.
Even on my very best days as their mother, I will never save their souls.
It is an amazing thing to be a mother and Matt Walsh is right that it is important. I am very grateful for his post and I am sure his wife is too. But I couldn't do any of what I do if Jesus hadn't done what He did in His finished work on the cross. His work was the most important thing of all and I don't ever want to forget it.
Little children, you are from God and have overcome them, for he who is in you is greater than he who is in the world. I John 4:4