Tuesday, July 26, 2005

Homeschool Question!

Due to a recent phone conversation with a fab gal, and a lot of pondering on my part, I have been wondering if I accelerated my oldest without knowing I did it. In your neck of the woods, what age does 5th and 6th grade fall into? I think I may have inadvertently pushed her forward when she really should not have been. I have always felt that I pushed her in math and have regretted it so have backed off and have helped her along in this area in a much calmer manner. Math can be tricky and frustrating and patience is a much-needed virtue when teaching it that I am afraid I have not always had.


SO, this year we have slowed down somewhat and I have allowed her brain to catch up. She is now in the early logic stage of learning and it has become increasingly obvious to me that all that grammar stage math frustration was totally unnecessary. She is getting things on her own now that she simply was NOT getting before purely because her brain is ready to understand them. I am actually thinking of keeping her in her same grade, not because she is slow, but because I think she is too young to keep going forward at the rate she is and still glean all she can. Does that make any sense? I do not think it is necessarily the best idea to push forward just for pushing forward's sake. I really want her to get the most out of each grade, each subject, and not always feel like there are missing pieces. Do any of you veteran moms have any good advice?
I sure would appreciate it.



owingsohana said...

....I believe a child should work wherever they need to. For one child they may be 12 yrs old but in a "5th grade" math but another at that same age maybe read for "7th grade" math. Try not to let the word "grade" bother you. Work wherever your child needs the work no matter what the front of the book says. That said though, depending on what time of year of a birthday I believe "6th grade" is typically about 11 yrs old. My daughter is going into 6th grade (but we use non "grade" curriculum for the most part) and she turned 11 back in April. My son however is a September baby so he's going to be 15 this year and he's only in 9th grade, whereas most 9th graders are 14 in the beginning of the year.

Lisa in Jax said...


I can't see any harm at all in letting her lead the pace. There's pretty much no such thing as "too much" grammar stage math. The more she gets it now, the fewer problems she'll have with higher math. In other words, if math operations skills (addn, subtaction, etc.) are second nature to her, higher math will be a BREEZE, b/c the math facts will be well-learned and she won't have to think about that part of it. Let her lead you. When she's bored with rote grammar-stage math, she'll let you know and you'll know it's time to move on.

Take care,


3FoldChord said...

I am agreeing with theother notes. Just because she maybe '12' doesn't mean she has to do ONLY 5th grade stuff. The joy of homeschooling is that a '5th grader' can be 8th grade math and 4th grade reading level and be working on science at whatever level they are ready for. Don't make the mistake of impeding your daughterslearning to keep her grade level. If you feel she is not ready for something (maybe a certain math area) then don't go there, review what she needs. If she understands it and wants to learn it, go for it.

sparrow said...

I'm not a veteran homeschooler...but I do know what you are talking about here as a mom. Two of my kids (10 and 12) are very bright and I have pushed them to take on challenges to keep them stimulated. This year, I have been realizing I need to balance this. They need to hang back a little too, and be the emotional age they really are. I am redoing their reading lists with this in mind, and telling myself to RELAX about the other subjects. I can see a difference in their joy...lots more laughter and being kids.

Babs said...

As usual, I'm doing the opposite. I have felt that I have somewhat held my oldest back in math due to grade placement. He has always been advanced in academics; so, I placed him a year ahead. He became bored with the math, even though it is a faced paced curriculum. This little boy who loves to learn new math concepts started saying he hated math. I have come to realize what he hated was the repetition of those long subtraction problems. This year I plan to unleash myself from the text and move him along as he leads by ability.